PixelatedPen
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Hi,
I have a friend who is generous and always there for me during tough times. She often gifts me random things or food, which I appreciate. However, she also finds ways to subtly and not-so-subtly put me down. For instance, at a recent birthday party, she announced in front of everyone that a guy I liked "sucks," even though he’s not in my life anymore. I’ve told her multiple times that I don’t want to talk about him.
She often asks me to handle her toddlers while she chats with others or even to dogsit our mutual friend's pets while they go on road trips. She also makes comments about my body, saying things don’t look good on my body type. When I confront her about these comments, she gets emotional and insists she didn’t mean any offense.
I know she has a history of people cutting her out of their lives, including her siblings, which makes me feel guilty for reacting to her negative behavior. I’m confused about how to handle this situation since there are always gifts and gestures that make me feel ungrateful if I express my feelings.
Any advice on how to navigate this friendship would be greatly appreciated!
Thank you!
I have a friend who is generous and always there for me during tough times. She often gifts me random things or food, which I appreciate. However, she also finds ways to subtly and not-so-subtly put me down. For instance, at a recent birthday party, she announced in front of everyone that a guy I liked "sucks," even though he’s not in my life anymore. I’ve told her multiple times that I don’t want to talk about him.
She often asks me to handle her toddlers while she chats with others or even to dogsit our mutual friend's pets while they go on road trips. She also makes comments about my body, saying things don’t look good on my body type. When I confront her about these comments, she gets emotional and insists she didn’t mean any offense.
I know she has a history of people cutting her out of their lives, including her siblings, which makes me feel guilty for reacting to her negative behavior. I’m confused about how to handle this situation since there are always gifts and gestures that make me feel ungrateful if I express my feelings.
Any advice on how to navigate this friendship would be greatly appreciated!
Thank you!